Tip of the day 61 - A simple recipe to find a good husband / wife - part 1
This series will be for you that are unmarried.
However, we have to start with a tip to you that are married:
The mindset should be - I am married to the right person!
He / she is best person in the world.
Soon we will move on to you that are unmarried and want to find a good husband / wife.
Tip of the day 62.
Love without actions is dead.
Love is actions.
Not words alone, but actions that show love.
Tip of the day 63 - A simple recipe to find a good husband / wife - part 2
The inside is the most important.
And the first thing you want to look for is a person that has the same core values as you.
What I mean with this is that you will of course be different in many things - but we all have core values.
The things that are really, really important for us are - our core values.
You need to look for a person with the same core values as yourself.
Without the same core values - it is impossible to have a happy and lasting relation.
Tip of the day 64 - A simple recipe to find a good husband / wife - part 3
Yesterday we saw that the inside is the most important.
And the first thing you want to look for is a person that has the same core values as you.
So what are the core values that he/she (and of course myself also) must have?
Well, needless to say, if you marry a person that want a new partner every month - the relation will neither be happy, nor lasting.
Therefore having the attitude, that this is for life. It is us two and I will never look back and never have any other.
To have this attitude as a core value, is a must.
Tip of the day 65 - A simple recipe to find a good husband / wife - part 4
Continuing to look at core values.
You might not have thought about it - but the most important core value is a burning love to Jesus.
The truth is that this has everything to do with having a happy and lasting relation.
I don't understand? you might say.
This is not something that can be answered in a quick message, but I have written a short book, going through this in detail.
So here it comes as a pdf for free.
https://www.givealltheheart.org/Articles/Download/GiveAlltheHeart.pdf
Tip of the day 66 - What about the outside appearance (beauty)?
A simple recipe to find a good wife / husband - part 5
We have seen that what to look for is the inside, and that the core values are good.
So what about the outside appearance (beauty)?
" Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised." (Proverbs 31:30)
This is of course very true.
The outside will change. It is vain.
For some it will change to the better, for others to the worse.
But it will not be the same.
But the core values will.
Of course you might not go for some where the outside is the opposite of your taste, but too much thought should not go on the outside, for it is the inside that matters.
Tip of the day 67 - Core value -woman.
A simple recipe to find a good wife / husband - part 6
If you want to do it God's way and love your wife as yourself, then of course you want a wife that does it God's way toward you as well.
This is covered in quite some detail in Tip of the day 54-60.
In short, we saw that a woman is instructed to submit and reverence the husband.
So as a man - you want to look after a woman with these qualities.
Tip of the day 68 - Core value - man.
A simple recipe to find a good wife / husband - part 7
If you want to do it God's way and submit to and reverence your husband, then of course you want a husband that does it God's way toward you as well.
This is covered in quite some detail in Tip of the day 54-60.
In short, we saw that a man is instructed to love his wife as himself and be ready to die for his wife.
So as a woman - you want to look after a man with these qualities.
Tip of the day 69
Do something romantic today!
If you can - why not watch the Northern lights with your loved one!
Not living in that part of the world - find something else to do together!
Tip of the day 70 - Don't let your feelings steer you.
A simple recipe to find a good wife / husband - part 8
Don't let your feelings steer you - use your brain.